I love the snow. When my boyfriend told me we were not going to retire year round to my beloved Maine I was crushed. My mind had been set for years to return home. It was an interesting adjustment. The first choice was to go to Texas as our daughter and her husband with two of our three grandchildren lived there. When they returned to Missouri to be closer to her in-laws we still intended go to Texas as we had established a base there in the form of housing.
A few years ago, once again, my boyfriend shocked me with the idea of not retiring to Texas. Mind warp! The logical choice was then to return to the St. Louis area near our grandchildren. He realized there would be snow though less than Maine on an average winter. I told everyone we were geographical challenged snowbirds as we were heading southwest not south.
Well the weather will come whether you like it or not. I was delighted when we got hit with 12+ inches of snow over the weekend. I cleaned the house before it started so that I could just enjoy and snuggle in as it was coming down. That is exactly what I did. Unfortunately others had to remove the snow.
This is a pure example of our differing personalities. I would have scheduled someone to come plow and shovel. People younger should be doing this. My boyfriend, being the independent male, believes he has to do this himself. Snow removal was fine when our son was living with us to help. When our son moved away I gifted, at Christmas, my boyfriend with a small electric 18″ bite snow blower. One of my more romantic gifts. We were living in Maryland at the time where we got very little snow in a winter and this machine did just the trick. It did the same this weekend in Missouri. Very inexpensive Amazon delivered practical beats romance on occasion! Have to also note Maine has very little snow this year.
Retirement is becoming more real. I think that is the appropriate word. Perhaps there are ways to prepare for this change in your life. I can see physically, financially and practically. All of which we did. The emotional part of that I think takes a bit longer to sink in to each person.
Of course each person reacts differently to this change. I have come to the conclusion that there is truly no such thing as retirement. Porch sitting in a rocker, the proverbial image, just no longer happens. I believe we are busier now only in different ways. I have taken to referring to retirement as a transition. Work doesn’t stop it simply becomes different.
Since our retirement in 2016 we have and still are in the process of remodeling our main home, added an addition to our small summer cottage, continuing to work in our ministry, battled cancer and managed a bit of travel. Busy! We are just now learning to relax and this snow was a pleasant gift to assure we were not running around all weekend. Even in that we managed to attend a meeting via skype. Truly we are blessed.
All that is so good I have to now share the downside of retirement which we have found thus far. It is called Bingeing. I am not talking food or drugs or booze. I am speaking of TV. I was blessed to marry a man who was not hugely into sports. Being a movie buff, I was thrilled to understand he liked movies almost as much as I did. Now with the ability to choose whatever you want to watch on TV we have discovered Amazon Prime and their movies and series. When I first discovered through Roku that we could get all these delightful series I was interested.
Confession: I did not watch Downton Abbey which was the BIG thing a few years ago. Well, I found it via Amazon. While construction was going on at our cottage in 2017 I watch all six seasons right in a row. Be it good or bad I surely enjoyed not having to take any breaks of a week between the episodes. I had discovered a new way to binge. One that did not involve calories!
We are still doing that which leads me to the point of my beginning this blog today.
Bingeing on series has led us to a new one which takes place in Rhode Island called “Brotherhood”. The downside I referred to is that we stay up way too late. This morning, after the snowy weekend with a bit of bingeing, we did not awake until 8:30AM. Truly this is unacceptable for both of us. I believe I am behind before I begin.
Perhaps others who retire have a better handle on discipline. My BF usually does. I can see now after this latest disaster that we both will be pushing to get back to some normalcy of bedtimes, of life. Perhaps this is all part of the transition others call retirement. Luckily we can forgive ourselves as we are persons in process learning this new way of life.
Whatever this transition/retirement experience is, we are together, we are happy, working on healthy and in still crazy love. We are open to wherever this new chapter leads us keeping God as Director of our own movie!
…..ONWARD TO MORE MISADVENTURE…..